There’s a discussion going on over at Punky Moms right now about Dumbledore and his gayness. Hmmmm… recipe for disaster or innocuous discussion?

Before I get to that, I want to say, I don’t proclaim my sexual orientation. Why not? It’s none of your business, that’s why not. I support anyone who wants to shout from the rooftops they are hetero, homo, poly, pan, trans, or anything I may have missed. I support their desire and their right. It’s just not for me.

I’m not on the market. I’m not playing the field. I’m not looking for a booty call, nor do I have the desire to be someone else’s booty call.

So it’s moot.

Someone mentioned that they support gay rights, have gay friends, but do not want their child around gay people because they might influence them to be gay. I’ll wait while you read that again. Slowly. All done? OK then. On the other side of the fence, we have a bundle of riled up ladies who identify as lesbian or bisexual, or have family members who identify as homosexual and are offended by said persons comment because hey, it could be their home that person keeps their kids from coming to because they could be a bad influence. Yes, tell a bunch of mothers you don’t want your child near them because they are bad people.

It’s actually been handled very well, and wasn’t a huge, heated discussion. I simply had this to say, about 25 posts in:

I really want to applaud our mamas for seeing this is a matter of opinion and not a matter of shoving ones opinion down ones throat as fact.

Personally, my kids already know (to some degree) about all sorts of relationships because they’ve been exposed to them. Whether they acknowledge consciously yet or not, they know about it, and I think it’s a good foundation.

Of course, my son likes to put on Shivies dress up clothes and play with her, who am I to stop them? It isn’t hurting anyone, and it makes for some cute, if not shared, photos. Not shared because not everyone thinks it’s innocuous, and that’s fine too.

Yep, my son likes to dress up right along side his sister. Usually in a pink tutu. I really don’t care. I think it’s sweet that he doesn’t have societies morals being pushed on him and is free to express himself.

I’m veering off-course here. Back to the subject at hand. I don’t share my sexual orientation anymore. I said why. Maybe if I was looking for someone I would be sharing it, but the people who need to know, do, and the people who don’t need to know, don’t. It doesn’t impact my relationships one way or the other.

If I said I was a lesbian or bisexual or poly or pan, that wouldn’t mean everyone I look at I see as a conquest or future partner or possible partner any more than if I say I’m straight. I have some female friends who are gorgeous, but that doesn’t mean I am looking at them like a plaything. It means I am looking at them as a person, a beautiful one. Same for my male friends. I have one male aquaintance who for years I’ve enjoyed looking at. That doesn’t mean I am gonna proposition him.

So why make a big deal out of gay, straight or in the middle? Just because you stick a label on it, doesn’t mean it’s all about sex. It’s about love, and companionship and sharing something with someone that you are so close and connected to, no one else will ever fit the hole they leave when they are gone. Sex might fit in there, but it’s not the be all end all.