I’ve got some Punky Moms news in lieu of new content

I’ve been sick. Not deathly ill, but sick enough to not want to do anything except sleep. Of course, instead of sleep I have done laundry, went food shopping today, taken photos, edited photos, done other misc. work, you know, life goes on, mucous be damned. In lieu of real content, please peruse some of this older, but still pertinent content.

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Punky Moms Holiday Ad Book!
What is the Holiday Ad Book you ask? It’s a one stop directory of places to shop! It’s more than a holiday gift “guide,” it’s a resource people will hang on to and reference all year long. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve directed someone to this place or that looking for the perfect holiday gift, baby gift, mama gift… you name it! Whether you sell Avon, Body Shop at Home, Candles, Clothing, jewelry, you have a place in our book!

Punky Moms got over 6200 front page hits in August alone, PunkyMomsForum.com got over 63000 (yes, three zeros!) and that is where our ad book will be available for permanent download. That is some serious exposure!
We want to have this created and ready for download and distro at the beginning of November for those who like to do their holiday shopping early! As long as the ads are in it will go out on time!

What a great way to reach over 1000 people (and growing daily!) all at once! We’re planning for our holiday shopping guide and we want your ads!

For the ridiculously inexpensive rate of 20$ per 1/8 page ad (the size of a business card) you can have a spot in our holiday digital book. The book will be available for free download to everyone as well as being distributed around the web.

Want a larger size? All of our rates are ridiculously inexpensive!

We have 16 1/8 page ads available @ 20$ each
We have 8 1/4 page ads available @ 35$ each
We have 4 1/2 page ads available @ 60$ each
We have 2 full page ads @ 100$ each

We want to have this created and ready for download and distro at the beginning of November for those who like to do their holiday shopping early! As long as the ads are in it will go out on time!

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Random stuff

I just made Ghirardelli chocolate bars according to the directions on the back of the white choc. chip bag. I wanted to make cookies, but was part way into the recipe before I realized it was too runny for cookies. Oops. I also substituted vanilla extract for almond (couldn’t find it) and I had no almond slices to put on top. No big loss. I melted 10 full ounces of white choc. to put in the bars, plus the entire bag of chips folded into the mix……. overkill? Perhaps, but delicious overkill! I also don’t have a square pan, so into the pie pan it went!

I will let you all know how it turned out in about an hour (20 min to cook, 15 min to cool, and then time to savour)

I saw on her webcam this evening looking fantastic. She says I made her feel self-conscious, All I said was it was nice to see her *not* in a photo. I find people “pretty themselves up” for photos. Myself included. So I like to see how people look without posing for a shot, you know? She looked even better. Wish I could see her in person, but between my anti-social ness (which causes people to either hate or love me immediately because it causes me to blabber on like an idiot for a bit until I feel comfy, I do it on the phone too *sigh*), the fact that we are only in Orlando on Mondays and probably a few other things, it probably wont happen. So this was a fantastic surprise. Something said “log onto X messenger” and I did and there she was!

I may have to hook our web cam back up. It was hooked up, but when we unhooked everything for Frances, we did a bare minimum hook up after in case we had to take it all apart again. Not that I bother getting dressed or anything most days. Heh, now people will want me to hook it up just for that lol I just might ;)

Still have massive amounts of laundry to do. Every few loads I do is diapers it seems, so I am not catching up as quickly as I’d like.

I bought a couple of pairs of pants and a couple of shirts at Motherhood yesterday (well, bought me a pair a few days ago and mom took me back yesterday lol) and as the woman is asking me my due date (sometime in early Feb?) and then checking our address (I have two other kids, I’ve been in their system for a few years now lol) it dawned on me. So I pipe up, I do not want to be on any mailing lists. She looks surprised the first time I say it. I go back a couple of days later, and we go through this again, and she asks if I still don’t want to be on the list. I said no, there isn’t anything I want in the mail. She says oh, they send out coupons for formula and diapers. Um, did you not hear me ask if you carried nursing maternity tops? Did you not just ring up my new nursing bra (that, btw, is non-returnable and was too small *sigh*)? Do you not see my son with his huge bubble butt caused by cloth diapers? Actually, I just said I breastfeed and cloth diaper. She looked very surprised and just kind of waved it off. Yes I could give the coupons to someone I know who is formula feeding and disposable diapering, but that still means I get a bunch of waste paper in the mail that I don’t want. And it means I have to go to the trouble of sending them to whoever it is that needs them. So bite me. No one gave me coupons for the insanely expensive lactose free formula I fed Dorian. Yah, yah, karma and all. I give back enough, skipping this one thing wont kill my karma.

Yesterday Dorian and I made him a three musketeers costume a la Disney. Yah, I did not need Disney to tell me how to do this, but they have been putting it on Playhouse Disney in the mornings and he wanted to make a three musketeers one. Now if I can get Chai to make one, and skip buying halloween costumes and/or having to make one. They can be the three musketeers with one missing.

Today we were going to make fabric fruit, but my sister grabbed the poly-fil brand batting, not the poly-fil brand polyfill and Fish didn’t look until he got home last night. So no fruit. Maybe
tomorrow *shrugs*

cool.

i sold some of my maternity stuff. i sold a dress, a lot of clothes from target on ebay, and i sold my support belt through a list. i had to re list my motherhood stuff, hopefully it will sell this time around. i opened shipping to international, not just domestic. maybe that will help, esp. since it is getting colder out here, and most of my stuff, being i was preggers in the summer AND in florida, is lightweight.

i am also going to be selling pulaski place candles, and come January, will be home business with my mom, making baskets with candles, soaps, and maybe some other misc. stuff. who knows. maybe make some baby baskets too! i am so excited. i finally have something to bring in some cash, as well as someone to do it with who is close by (in the same house even! lol) and i know will do this. so i can stay home with my babies and bring in some extra cash. maybe not a lot, specially at first., but enough for some extra spending money/bill money and maybe eventually have a strong enough online presence to bring in a good deal. who knows! the sky, as they say, is the limit!

stupid doctors strike again

http://www.twincities.com/mld/pioneerpress/living/health/3439755.htm

Doctors warn of risks from vaginal births
BY TARA PARKER-POPE
Wall Street Journal

After an angry backlash against Caesarean sections, most everyone for the past decade has taken it as a given: Vaginal childbirth is the best and safest way to have a baby.

But a number of high-profile doctors, concerned by an alarming incidence of serious birth injuries to women who’ve had vaginal deliveries, are beginning to challenge that conventional wisdom. They argue that more maternity patients should at least consider having elective C-sections. At the very least, they say obstetricians need to give their patients more information about the risks of vaginal delivery just as they would a C-section or any other medical procedure.

Surveys show that one-third of all women have suffered some type of birth injury, both temporary and permanent ? most commonly urinary or fecal incontinence, pelvic pain, sagging pelvic organs and sexual dysfunction. One in every nine women will require surgery as a result. A new medical subspecialty called urogynecology has evolved to repair the extensive damage childbirth can cause to a woman’s body. Yet few obstetricians warn patients of the possibilities of serious side effects.

“It’s like the silent epidemic of motherhood,” says Linda Brubaker, professor of obstetrics, gynecology and urology at Loyola University in Chicago. “We’re doing very well on infant health, but now we need to turn our attention to the mother’s health.”

Jeannette O’Neill, a 33-year-old mother of three, has undergone 19 procedures to correct the damage wrought by giving birth to three children. Vaginal delivery hurt the nerves that controlled her bladder, leaving her incontinent and without feeling in her bowel. The nerve damage also affected her leg, causing one foot to droop. An implant, similar to a pacemaker, now controls her bladder function.

“I was wearing diapers for 2? years,” says the Pembroke Pines, Fla., nurse. “It’s ironic that I don’t have a C-section scar, because I have scars down my spine and right side of my bottom and seven scars in front, all from trying to repair childbirth injuries.”

Debra Sandefur, a 45-year-old Naperville, Ill., mother of a 3-year-old son, had a partial hysterectomy and a “bladder sling” to repair birth injuries. In three weeks, she’ll undergo surgery for prolapse, which causes a woman’s pelvic organs to slip outside her body.

“It’s hard to lift my son because the body parts come out ? it’s like half of a ping pong ball coming out,” says Sandefer, who deals with the problem by pushing the organs back in place.

C-SECTION REDUCTION

One reason for the high incidence of birth injuries is the decade-long public health effort to reduce the nation’s C-section rate, which peaked at about 25 percent in the late 1980s, dropped to about 20 percent in the 1990s and is now at about 23 percent. Insurance companies, in particular, pressed for more vaginal deliveries, which cost far less. Today, the quality of obstetrical care given by doctors and hospitals often is measured by a low C-section rate.

Nobody believes every woman, or even most women, should have C-sections. Caesareans carry all the risks of major surgery, including infection, bleeding and blood clots. In addition, the abdominal incision can take weeks to heal and make it painful for mothers to carry their babies.

But an increasing number of physicians say their colleagues should be open to a “patient choice” C-section and provide women with enough information to make an informed decision.

Currently, “nobody is told the pros and cons of anything,” says G. Willy Davila, chairman of gynecology at Cleveland Clinic Florida. “Informing the patient is such a powerful tool.”

Still, it’s clear that even when advised of the risks, many women would opt for a vaginal birth.

Amanda Sherland, a 37-year-old mother of two in Deerfield Beach, Fla., had surgery in February to correct stress incontinence, which caused her to leak urine when she ran, coughed or sneezed. Al
though she wishes she’d been warned about the potential problems, she says she still would have chosen to deliver vaginally.

DETERMINING RISK

Gauging risk for birth injury is easier in a second pregnancy.

“If there’s a problem with the fetus getting through the first time, you probably have an increased risk of damage the second time through,” says Joseph Schaffer, director of urogynecology and reconstructive pelvic surgery at University of Texas Southwestern Medical Center in Dallas. “That’s a group of women that I think are at very high risk and should be considered for a Caesarean section.”

Other risk factors include having urinary incontinence during pregnancy or right after a previous birth; suffering a bad tear or laceration during a prior delivery and having existing prolapse of internal organs.

Having family members who have suffered prolapse or birth injury may also signal increased risk. A previous prolonged labor that involved a lot of pushing, the use of forceps and episiotomy also increases risk.

It’s known that women who’ve already had a C-section are at higher risk for bleeding during a vaginal birth. Even so, for years, they also have been pressed to have a vaginal birth after C-section, or VBAC, the second time around. But more recently, VBAC deliveries have begun to drop.

It’s also important that women become aware that incontinence and prolapse aren’t a normal part of aging, and that some, if not all, of the damage can be repaired.

“It’s kind of a private suffering,” says Sandefur. “Because the baby is healthy, nobody really cares about what happened to your body during delivery and how hard it is to fix things.”