Quirky Mom, Quirky Family

I’ve had sort of erratic entries lately. Life has been mostly mundane, shy of one or two occurances. Nothing note-worthy any longer.

I’ve been thinking, almost meditating, at night on Erin. I had dinner with my parents tonight, and my sister Sara is in a wheelchair for the next few weeks, she broke her pelvis (hairline, nothing major, but major enough it can’t be walked on), and dad wheeled it into the living room and wheeled it around and put it in front of the television. I went up to him and hugged him and said “I guess that’s where the wheelchair goes, huh?” He just kind of looked at me. I pointed out what he did and said “yah, I guess.” He said my brother was sitting in it a few days ago, in front of the television, and dad saw him out of the corner of his eye and did a triple take. My dad really misses her. He outright said to me tonight “She was a pain for 21 years, and I still miss her.” It’s rare for my dad to show, or even mention emotion. So it’s kind of weird for me, because I feel like I am the only one he shows it around. Perhaps late at night, he and my mom talk, but it wouldn’t surprise me if they didn’t. It’s just not their thing.

I also spoke with him about us being able to even start househunting around Feb ’05. He said we might want to talk to the landlord a few months in advance of our lease being up and see if we can do maybe a 4 month lease (so April ’05 instead of having to renew through December ’05). Even if he hikes the rent slightly, I might be willing to do it. That would buy us some time to (assuming we start teh looking process in maybe, October?) get the paperwork straightened out, have the VA load people inspect hatever home it is, and whatever else buying a home entails. Since the IRS is taking their 100$ a month direct from the back account, that means our 12 months is February ’05, which means we can use the VA loan anytime thereafter. For those not in the know, that basically means if they approve whatever house we find, we do not need a downpayment of any kind. The navy had to be good for something I guess, and this is better than most things. Dad even suggested we maybe start checking out areas now. I don’t want to get ahead of myself. I don’t really have to check out schools, so my big issue is neighborhood (median age, are there kids, is it safe and do most of my neighbors speak english) and how far is it from ‘s work. Maybe in a few months it will be worth starting to look. I have enough going on for the time being.

Speaking of the Fishie, he goes in Monday to get his stitches out of his mouth. We need to look into dental insurance if nothing else so he can get the rest of his teeth fixed/pulled and replaced.

Must go lie with the boy. I feel guilty if I am not there when he falls asleep. The joys of mommyhood!

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